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Saturday, January 8, 2011

The Common Denomenator

So, what do all these people have in common...

John Candy

Celine Dion

 
Pamela Anderson

 
Wayne Gretzky

 Jim Carry

 
  and Blaze W.  
 If you guessed that they are all    
 CANADIANS....  then you'd be correct!  Our Blaze received his Canadian Citizenship on November 8th.  So we are officially a family of dual Canadian/American citizens.  

 

Well the holidays are over. Just as quick as they came...they left!  We had a wonderful Christmas.  On New Year eve, both Gerry and I worked, and I also had to work on New Years day.  We are not really party animals too much anymore with a toddler in tow, so it didn't really matter.


Blaze is doing incredible.  He grows and changes and learns every day.  He teaches us so much about being parents.  The other night I was watching TV and they showed a baby being burped.  It felt like such a lifetime ago now when Blaze was that small.  He is now running...yes, I said running all over the place, bare foot or with shoes, once he started there was no looking back.  He loves to explore and see new things.  He is so very gentle, which I know Neyla appreciates, since he has now dubbed her back, his new chair.  She is SO good with him.  She lets him do anything and she just looks at us with that 'REALLY guys?!?' look on her face.  I cant' say it enough, we sure lucked out with this rescue dog.  It was Neyla's first real Christmas with a family and I think she liked it.


Blaze starts survival swim class next week.  He has done so well over the past 10 months in parent-tot classes that Coach Bryce says he is more than ready to advance.  We are a little disappointed cause we can't get into the water and share it with him, BUT we are proud of our little Michael Phelps.

Gosh he has changed SO much in the last few months it all just seems to roll together.   He is getting his top two incisor teeth, which has significantly helped in the chewing department. He still likes to ride the vacuum, but figured out that its a little loud, so whenever the vacuum starts up he puts his hands over his ears like ear muffs.

He signed his first 2 signs last week.  'All done/finished' and 'more'.  I got so excited when he did them, I think I scared him to death when I screamed. He is trying very hard to communicate to us.  'Ahhhh' is his favorite word to talk to us or answer any of our questions.  He is pointing to what he wants now, which is a huge help, since 'Ahhh' covers just about everything.  He says, Ma Ma, Da Da, dog, Pa Pa, Gamma, Nanny, pretty clearly and every now and then will say a new word, but not consistently like the others. 

Man of many faces, that's our boy!  He loves to furrow his brow and pretend like he is either mad or really thinking hard.  Mostly he smiles and is a real charmer with the ladies when he tilts his head and squints his eyes to really reel the girls in.  It totally works as they all respond with, 'Ohhhh he is SO cute!'


We also have his first job lined up as soon as he can work... he is going to be the youngest ever Walmart Greeter.  He says hi, to every single person (which was not an easy task over the Christmas holidays).  Most people say 'hi' back to him, because if they don',t well then he just gets louder and more persistent until they cave.  Even then he repeats it over and over to the same person to the point that they end up laughing and walking away, after Gerry or I say, 'Blaze the nice lady already said 'hi' to you five times now.'  When someone is leaving, our little man will wave his little hand and blow kisses to them, so darn cute!


We have decided they need to rename the 'Terrible Two's'  They need to call it 'here comes the 15 month old with an attitude...look out!'  We can't really complain though.  We haven't had any all out kicking and screaming temper tantrums...yet!  But we are patiently reading and learning how to redirect our little monster who decided that the one time Mommy wore her hair down for family photos was the PERFECT time to take a couple of fist fulls of it and pull with what looked like demonic possession in his eyes.  Photographer got a nice shot of that one.  SO embarrassing!!! ' No', is not in a toddlers vocabulary.  Well, I suppose unless its coming out of their mouth.  If not whatever they have in their hand goes hurling across the room at mach speed in an instant, followed by a loud yell.  I am convinced though that it is only Mommy that seems to be subject to this devilish treatment as Daddy just has to look at him the wrong way and the bottom lip comes out with a face that would pull on anyone's heart strings.  Daddy says Mommy is a 'pushover!'  Mommy says she just has to learn to look scarier then Daddy does.  As I said...we really can't complain, however its only 16 months in, so Blaze may just be testing us for what's yet to come.  I did teach him, 'gentle.' and he usually will take his hand and stoke our faces very softly, unless the devil rears its ugly head.

 
A great accomplishment at 15 months was Blaze going to bed on his own.  We will say...'Its time for bed.' or 'are you ready for bed?' and he immediately walks to his room and waits for us to pick him up and lay him in his crib.  Also, if we say, 'Ok time to eat.' he goes over to his highchair and pulls it back from the table and waits for us to pick him up and put him in it.  Still, once we put him in bed, then that's it and he is out for the night till around 8 or 9 a.m.  My parents didn't believe us till they babysat a few weeks ago and he did it for them too.  I think we totally have the smartest 16 month old out there.  ;)

He is learning the parts of the body and he loves when Mommy sings, 'head and shoulders, knees and toes...' His very favorite is 'belly-belly-belly.'  He giggles and pats his belly.  Daddy thought it would be fun to also teach him 'Dinky-dinky-dinky' and yes, he pats that too.  Boys will be boys! 

We were excited about Christmas this year thinking how much fun Blaze will have tearing all the Christmas wrap off.  Not so much....he still had 3 gifts under the tree on boxing day (day after Christmas for all you non-Canadians)  He loves his new set of wheels.  Spoiled child already has a cool ride at the age of 16 months.  Check out his mongoose quad.
 

So other than Blaze growing like a weed, Not much is going on around here.  Life is pretty status quo:  work, spending time with Grandma and Papa, trying to loose all that Thanksgiving/Christmas turkey weight, finding out that we are pregnant with twins, etc. etc.  Not a whole lot happening.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Happy Holidays from us to you!

This will be a very, very blessed Christmas for us in SO many ways. We can't wait to see Blaze's face Christmas morning!!!

We have been busy little bees, working, shopping,  replacing and fishing out big $$$$ for a new water heater since the old one suddenly decided to burst (right before Christmas, I might add ), getting family photos done (not at all in time for Christmas cards..yes I officially suck), dealing with my TMJ which locked my jaw for 2 days straight and me living on milkshakes, soups and muscle relaxants (gotta love them drugs), spending lots of quality time with Papa and Grandma, doing fun-filled local family outings like the annual Phoenix Zoo Lights and the State Fair. Oh, and did I mention shopping???  Yes, shopping, shopping, shopping for Christmas.  So much for another year of 'getting a head start'!  One of these years I'll get it right!?

WHEW...last thing on our minds was/is blogging...Sorry folks (however I have been keeping up with everyone else's blog adventures when I get a spare minute or two.)

Well here is a few updated photos of our little guy, who is not just walking, but running all over the place.  So much to tell and so little time...I promise more details after the holidays.  Until then... A VERY HAPPY HOLIDAY SEASON TO ONE AND ALL!!!!!




 Just a few of our family shoot...not easy with a 15 month old and a puppy...WHEW!

 Still not sure about this guy with the beard???

 Keeping warm at night-time Zoo lights.

A FULL day at the State Fair where Blaze:
Rode the little roller coaster

AND...
the huge Ferris-wheel... NO FEAR!!!

Enjoyed the sights with Papa and Grandma,

and met a whole bunch of new furry friends.

 One of Blaze's FAVORITE things to do every day...hiding Neyla's food ALL over the house.

 Who needs the fair?  This ride is awesome!

I LOVE the zoo!!!

 0 to 1 year of growth chart done...I know a little crowded.

" How many pennies is that water heater repair man???"

Everyone LOVES Grandma!

 Still the happiest little boy in the world!!!

Monday, November 15, 2010

REFLECTION...

Our blog book arrived the other day.  It is a hard cover bound, 400 page packed, beautiful book about BLAZE'S STORY.



I hope and pray someday he will read it with pride.  We both share in our love for India and our forever connection we will have with it. We have always been very open and honest about our journey and were one of the first few blogs about surrogacy in India.  It was a long and emotional journey filled with major highs and unbelievable lows.  In the end we won the battle and reaped the rewards of a precious little Angel born to us almost 15 months ago.  I still look at Blaze and cannot believe he is here with us. 

While putting all the information into Blaze's blog book I had to review each and every post and comment from the very beginning... April 2008!  Seems like a lifetime ago.  What started as merely a journal and some FYI info. for others who may be interested in Surrogacy in India, became SO much more: 
  • 50,000 plus blog views
  • Personal emotions and details shared
  • Thousands of photo were taken
  • Ultimate joy and heart-wrenching pain
  • Endless memories we will hold dear to our hearts for a lifetime
  • Intimate connections made from people all over the world
  • Friendships were made and friendships were lost along the way
  • Media coverage: photos, interviews, news clippings and magazine spreads 
  • Helping to create and be a part of an ongoing India surrogacy support forum (certainly giving and taking my punches at that) 
  • Criticism, opposition, and conflict 
  • Support, encouragement, gratitude and love
Infertility is a world filled with crazy passionate emotions, comments are made in the heat of the moment, people are hurt, and clinics are bashed.  In the end, no one person or clinic or doctor or hospital is perfect.  We read, we research, we become more educated.   After all this time and energy is spent, we take a leap of faith hoping and praying that we have made the right choice.  The right choice for you and your family, not for anyone else.

Do we have any regrets???  NO!  We couldn't change things now anyway.  As the saying goes...What does not kill us only makes us stronger.  We all learn from our mistakes, failures and experiences.  This is who we are...love us or hate us, in the end we have ultimately changed others lives with sharing our story.  We weren't the very first couple to have done this, and we won't be the last.  We took a chance and  we succeeded. 

We are forever indebted to all the people in India, including our Doctors who had any part in giving us our greatest gift, our son.  We will continue to sing their praises and remain proud of how we overcame our infertility challenges with their help.  Our story is unique, but not so uncommon anymore.  We have never been ashamed or embarrassed to share our story and experiences with anyone, we have tried to help others with their own personal journey's, as we knew how foreign and unfamiliar this territory was when we began.  We only wish at that time, we had so many others to pave the way for us.  We did this voluntarily, and contrary to others opinions we have never received so much as a dime.  As crazy as others have called us for advertising our story, we felt like we had found hope when all else had failed. We had won our own personal lottery. 

We remain in constant contact with the incredible people who made our dreams come true...Blaze's Godparents, Dr. Sudhir and Dr. Yashodhara the owners of our Mumbai clinic, Surrogacy India and our amazing surrogate KT.  From day one we were blessed with a positive and fulfilling view of India and all its beauty and culture.  To this day both Doctors continue to thank us for believing in them and say we are apart of co-founding Surrogacy India and their dream to make babies possible.  We created a friendship, a bond, for life with our Doctors for what we have shared with them, we now consider them family.  We were their first international clients. We were thrilled to have taken a leap of faith and found in them, an incredible, affordable and manageable solution to our dreams of having a family.  We were over the moon, we wanted to shout from the highest roof tops that our prayers had been answered.  We wanted everyone to know there were other options, and so we shared this gift with others in hopes that they too would experience the joy of fulfilling their dreams.  What a wonderful feeling it is to have someone tell you, that 'because of you opening up and sharing  your story and experiences, their dreams have come true', both from IP's and from our Doctors.  To now, be one couple of many who are a referral for our Doctors, for their superb treatment of us, our surrogates and our son throughout our entire journey, was the least we could do for them, as they gave us the ultimate payoff, our greatest reward of all... our beautiful and perfect child, Blaze.

We hope that our pride will be shared by our son.  He may not announce it to the world that he is an IVF child born in India via egg donor and a gestational surrogate, and that's perfectly okay with us, it will certainly be his choice to share all or nothing.  But we do hope and pray that he personally embraces his conception, origin and common bond and love for India as we both have. We still consider India  a second home to us, and we will return with Blaze when he is old enough to understand and hopefully enjoy and join in our pride of this amazing country. 

To each and every person who has shared in, learned from, followed along or lurked from afar in our journey from day one or even just today, we thank you for being there. They weren't all happy times, but they were ours.  Good, bad and indifferent times, we are forever changed because of you.

Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Happy Halloween...a little late!


Mommy's little Caveman, complete with brown glitter eye shadow (aka dirt) on his sweet little face!  I know, I know...he is going to have something to say about that when he grows up, but I had no other 'dirt looking' non-sparkling eye shadow.  OH WELL, I will suffer with the future consequences, just because he looked SO DARN CUTE!!!  Not a bad hand-made costume (with a little help from very multi-talented Grandma) from my not-so-crafty self which also included his Bam Bam Caveman bat.


Thursday, September 30, 2010

WE WON...WE WON...WE WON!!!!!

What????? We NEVER and do I mean NEVER win anything!  What an amazing surprise to get this email.  I am still in shock.  All I can say is Thanks ever so much to Becky and Ashley from '2 Moms Talk' and the creators of Cutest Blog on the Blog.  They are both so talented.  We can't wait to get Blaze's book together.  What an awesome keepsake for him for many, many years to come!